I get a lot of messages from guys asking me how I interact with Thai GoGo girls and beer bar girls. In this article I will address that.
If you have never been to Thailand and simply just want to pay for the bar fine and get it over with that is OK too. Just walk in the bar, get a beer, choose your girl (if she is willing to go with you) and take her home. This is very easy to do here.
But if you are like me, someone who enjoys getting the best performance possible for the amount of money you spend in Thailand, then continue reading.
If you want to: reduce the risk of a bar girl turning Long Time into Short Time then keep reading. If you want to reduce the chances of the bar girl being a starfish then continue reading. If you like the idea of becoming close to them to the point that they actually like you and give much more attention, then please keep reading.
Most guys that start coming here without much experience might be a little confused when it comes to bar girls. Myself included a few years ago when I didn’t know how to interact with these types of chicks.
After so much experience in Thailand I realized Asian girls are not the same as the Western girls that I was used to back home. In Thailand the girls want the guys to be more aggressive and direct in their behaviors.
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After a while with more experience I started to see patterns arise when I was interacting with these bar girls. This includes go go girls and freelancers to some extent. It’s like driving a car, at first you don’t pay attention to other cars and only your own driving. Then you become experienced and pay more attention to other signs and more cars around you and become a much better driver. Here are my tips with dealing with these girls in Thailand.
How to Spot Good Thai Bar Girls
What is meant by “good” is to get a feel for the type of bar girls that will give you the best experience. The ones happy to be in your presence. When you see a bar girl waving and calling at you to come for a drink don’t just get shy and walk away. I see tons of guys in miss out on good opportunities because they were shy or didn’t even give the girl a chance. Usually the ones that make the move on you and have good attitudes end up giving you an amazing experience.
I see something like this: A hot bar girl calls and whistles to a farang walking towards her. The guy seems interested and I can tell wants he wants to hang out with her. She approaches him and starts grabbing his hand. He thinks about it (blushes a bit) and walks away like a scared little school girl. He’s probably thinking, “Hey let me continue walking and maybe there will be another girl hotter than this one”. Or maybe is just to shy and hesitant to go and chat up the girl. \
Don’t be that guy in Thailand that thinks he is too good for every girl!
Heres the thing about Thailand: You never know who the good bar girls are until you at least have 1 drink with them. Of course they are working and want money, we all know this. But that doesn’t mean they are not human beings with feelings.
Treat bar girls the way you would to any girl you just met and watch how the interaction goes in your favor. If you want to have hookup for free in Thailand, check out my Thai Cupid guide. You can easily meet cute girls to date while you are in Thailand.
Listen To Your Gut Feeling About Thai Bar Girls
The point is if you find the girl attractive AND she came up to you showing genuine interest, then take the opportunity. Trust your instincts with these chicks, it is usually right. If it feels wrong walk away.
Especially in Thailand. You don’t want to waste your time and money on a girl who isn’t worth it. If the girl the type that just wants to make money as fast as possible, or she doesn’t enjoy what she is doing, just leave and go find someone else.
Not all bar girls are the same. It’s all about finding a girl that gives you a good experience! With more experience you will know exactly how to spot the best bar girls! You can usually become close to these types of bar girls and even get freebies once they are comfortable with you. Or maybe you just buy her some dinner. This is highly possible if you build some sort of connection with the girl, especially in Thailand.
Even if you are planning on going somewhere else you can still hop in the bar for 10 minutes. Have a beer and get to know the girl a bit better. Maybe it’s worth getting her contact info. You can always meet up with her another time or when she is off work that same night, this happens a lot here. I have done this myself countless times and it pays off.
Don’t Be Afraid to Buy Lady Drinks For Girls
Here is another important point regarding Thai women in general. Focus first on having fun and showing them a good time. Then they will end up liking you a lot.
Of course if you feel that the bar girl is the gold digger type that ONLY wants a lady drink and has a bad attitude then don’t keep buying her a lady drink. But this usually happens because you chose the wrong chick. From My experience Thai bar girls don’t like guys that don’t even know how to have a good tome. You came all the way here, so at least try to have some fun.
Allow The Girl to Choose You Too.
This was my point I was trying to make before: If a girl is showing you interest, this is already a good sign. And if you are interested in the girl too then take the opportunity.
This is especially true Thai Go Go girls. When you walk in the bar just relax and have a beer and have a good time. After all this is Thailand. Feel the vibe of the place. If you see the attitudes are bad, or there doesn’t seem to be a genuine interest after 20 minutes then leave. There are always a few chicks that just started working at the bar, or are not hardcore pros that only want a lady drink or money.
Many of the ladies in Thailand would like to have a cool foreigner friend and get close with them. What you have to do is spot these types of bar girls. If you have enough experience you will notice that they are all over the place in Thailand. Trust me, I have been all over Thailand and I see them everywhere. Even in Go Go bars where people think has the most hardcore types of girls.
I always a find a few shy ones that give me an amazing experience. I stay contact with most of them and hang out with them sometimes when I’m back in Thailand. Thai girls will test you to see how you react to their questions.
Never give Thai girls boring direct answers. Be a challenge to them. Tease them. Joke with them. These chicks love that. Have a playful interaction with them. Try not to make it seem like you are so desperate to go home with them. You should be having fun in Thailand with or without them. Once you put out this type of vibe they will start to be much more open and willing to have fun with you. This type of attitude will take you very far in Thailand.
Talking About Price With Bar Girls
So you’re in Thailand and having fun. You have a beer in hand, smiling and enjoying yourself with the girl in the bar. Eventually the conversation of prices will surely come up.
If you picked her the right way and she had some interest in you to begin with then this will be easy. Personally for me, I usually like to wait until the bar girl asks me if I want to bar fine her. It is very rare that I bring up the topic of money first. She will ask you something like “so what are you doing after?”. Then you casually ask what the bar fine is (if you don’t already know) and find out the price. The bar fine in Thailand is the fee you need to pay to the bar so that she can come with you.
You should not be showing too much interest in her so she gives you a good price. You should be able to walk away from bar girls at any given time. This is the right mentality to have in Thailand. It’s like buying a car from the car dealership. If you show so much interest then they will think they can charge a higher price for her time. This is exactly the same with Thai girls.
Prices For Bar girls in Thailand
This is a general guideline. There are different prices for each type of girl. It will give you an idea of what you should be paying in Thailand.
Go Go bar
- Bar fine: 600 – 1000 baht
- ST 2000-2500 baht
- LT 3000-5000 baht
Generally these are the price ranges that you should be paying in Thailand, and not higher. So try not to over-pay whenever you can to keep prices from inflating. You have to keep in mind that 1000 baht in Thailand is still considered a lot of money. The 1000 baht note is their highest one, so you can keep this in perspective. This concludes this session about Thai bar girls and it will continue in future posts.
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